maybe i don't know enough about co-dependency. what if you're disabled and depend on others for things that you can't do. like, for example, i can't drive. i depend on my hubby to take me to places. of course, if it's in town, i will go by bus to ease up on the load on my hubby. it's not that i'm not willing to drive, but strange things happen if i drive. it's too dangerous that way, not just for me, but for others as well. i felt a responsibility to stop driving for that reason.