I'm direct. I'm not politically correct. Most guys don't like big girls. They just don't. I experienced this myself after gaining 30 pounds from taking Seroquel. I didn't get the stares, the come-ons, the whistles the texts. It was weird. Ok so I joined a gym. Have I been yet Nope. But I'm tired of not having the draw to choose from. Beauty is power. Like it or not, it's true. The sucky thing is getting old or fat but at least the fat thing is something I can change.