But trusting the word of a professional who isn't trained in the necessary field isn't inaccurate? Come on. I think it's time to face reality. You are a bigger girl, you say so yourself. Big is beautiful, right? So why is it such a big leap to put down that your body type is bigger, and not "about average"?

Frankly, the defensiveness I'm seeing right now would be a HUGE turn-off, and this is just over a forum! I hope that you are more civil in person. The title of this thread shows blame, and a lack of looking inward. The replies that I have typed are to offer a different perspective from your own. I was hoping that, as an adult, you would be able to take this perspective and at least chew on it for a while. However, I am seeing complete disregard and defensiveness. Maybe it isn't the guys you are dating, perhaps it is you.