I think you have answered your own question. The reason these guys are falling off after meeting you in person is because you are not being up-front and honest in your profile. No one is saying that you aren't datable. What we ARE saying is that you are wasting your time (and theirs) by intentionally hiding key facts about yourself. Since you describe yourself as big and beautiful in this thread, why not put that in your profile instead of average? Average is not accurate and is giving guys the wrong impression. If you are honest in your profile, then you will attract guys who are actually interested in YOU and like you for YOU! Why waste your time going on first dates with guys who aren't going to be interested once they find out more?

I've done my share of online dating and, personally, I HATE it when I find out someone has been fudging the truth in their profile. Since I've learned that a lot of people do it, I won't even agree to a date until I see a full body pic, know where they work, and know what degree they have. That doesn't make me shallow-- it means I am experienced enough to know who I would be comparable with (and what combinations I've tried and just didn't work with). Personally, I work out every day, I built a gym in my basement, and I eat mostly protein shakes, chicken, and vegetables. The things I enjoy doing on dates are rock climbing, hiking, and other athletic activities. Ive tried dating someone who wasn't in shape and it was a big issue-- we would have to prepare two different meals, she couldn't rock climb with me, with wanted to do indoor activities I didn't like, etc. Not everyone who has preferences is shallow-- they just know what they like in a partner and what wouldn't work. And sometimes, people just have random aesthetic preferences. I like brunettes. I'm blonde and I have nothing against other blondes-- it's just that I find long dark hair to be one of the sexiest things ever. Go figure. So i just wouldn't go on a date with someone with short blonde hair. Just not my thing. I'm sure you have your own preferences, too. There is a reason you click yes on some guys and not others. The more honest you are on your profile, the more likely you are to attract a guy who is going to be a great match. After all, wouldn't you rather find a great, lasting match than a bunch of sucky first dates?