My husband has excessive weight. He told me in a first phone conversation before we met. His picture didn't really show it. I appreciated he told me but I can't care less about weight or looks in general (as long as there is mutual attraction). I do think it's a polite thing to do though either have very clear full body pics or give some hints about looks that aren't shown on the picture

But I wouldn't under any circumstances date, let alone marry, a man who isn't independent and doesn't work full time (unless full time in school at the moment) because that would mean I have to support him.

My husband in fact has a disability, yet he has college degree and professional career and works his butt off. life is a struggle at times but he perceveres. So weight has never been an issue but lack of independence certainly would mean there would be no second date

I personally think perhaps that's the issue. Unless people in school, they work full time (or they are on disability). I think I would focus on fixing that first. People with disabilities (unless severe) still work.

I think it's actually very attractive when people accomplish things despite health issues or other adversaries