I was on a dating site for a little while and I think phone conversations prior to meeting are KEY. You can tell by a phone conversation if you "click" with someone.

I found in many of my phone conversations, I was talking over the person, or I thought the person did not "sound" right for me..and never went on that first meal date.

I disagree with the person who said not to do meal dates. I like meal dates as they are out in public...and yes the free meal..although I usually paid for myself unless a person insisted on paying.

I know that once I meet someone in person the "looks" of the person mostly define for me IF I want to go forward. Lets be honest there is a certain "look" you are looking for and visa versa.

If my "dates" made it past the phone call, then we met in person and it can go either way that way...he doesn't want to continue with you or you don't want to continue with him.

Always look for the red flags...if you are thinking you want to pursue another date with a person. Always ask a lot of questions. Like what was your favorite thing about your last relationship and what was the thing that did not work? What did you learn from that relationship and be prepared to answer the same questions.

I do know it is discouraging to not be called back but everything happens for a reason and it may keep happening until you find the "right" one.