How do you feel about other people? Youre gonna get out of it, what you put into it. Do you feel like you have put yourself out there, communicated with people, listened to what they wanted to say, helped them out? If so, then i think you would have connected with people, and you would have your answer. It starts with, how well did you connect with the people who raised you - it kinda sets the pattern for how you relate to people ever after.