For me .. Back in my dating years .... I don't like blonde guys, never have never will. I don't like guys under 5'9 I like to wear heels. I don't like " skinny" men nor a 2 X dude , would not get involved with a guy that wasn't working and supporting themselves.
I was very honest about my looks , chat days , people would put up 10 year old pics , so I would say okay hold a coffee cup or water something I wanted to see in a pic so proof that profile pic and real life matched pretty close .
What did I have to offer ? I worked 3 jobs ( no time to waste going on a date with someone that wasn't even close to a match . No texting back then ...so maybe 2 calls just to chitchat them it was meet for coffee or moving right along . My available time to meet guys was also limited because if my daughter. ... I refused to let any man meet her unless I really felt there was a chance of a long term relationship.
I was/am indeed thin , dark long .. I would send a couple facial pics and some full length ... Here I am ! Many men asked if if go blonde LOL !! Hmm nope , moving right along ..
I was a single mom that had a busy life , I made time for people if they appealed to me.
So your not skinny that's fine. But you need to be upfront about how you look top to bottom , why waste time? Some men will like you some won't , that is life.
Don't assume everyone is going to be won over by personality right outta the gate. You current living and employment is going to be an issue for most men , unless they are wanting a stay at home mom deal , which is fine , it's just not for every one.
Maybe just quit the dating scene for a while and build up your self esteem.. It's taking a beating right now.
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