This isn't going to change. You went off to a guy you didn't know - like a mail order bride. Communicating on-line with a guy does not constitute knowing him.

Now he and you are each trying to win. You're each trying to win an argument. Completely stop, stop, stop trying to diagnose him. It doesn't matter what a shrink would label him, and no therapist is going to change him . . . or you.

Now you're trying to stay in his country, but you can't support yourself there. Pack your stuff when he's not around and leave.

Or: stay. And this will just go on and on and on and on, etc. etc. etc.

Oh! and we at PC are not just "another psych forum." We are awesome.