That is a really hard question. I am also working on it myself. My T does what others do - ask me how I would respond to, say, my niece, or another person I love, if such things had happened to her or if she had done something and of course my answer is I would take care of them - and then he offers me the look to take care of myself the same way. Unfortunately, I have not yet been able to do that. I have found that yoga and meditation have done a great deal to make me feel better about myself - that in combination with my therapist, my lexapro and my xanax have improved my mental outlook a great deal during the past 11 months I have been in therapy.