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Originally Posted by Rayne Selene
Trigger warning, but I'm trying to keep this as mild as possible.
At 17, I was sexually abused by my boyfriend. I never realized how bad it was until later...and now I want to talk to my sister about what happened to me, so that she can be prepared for similar situations (she's 15.) Thinking about it has been making me relive it, and I've started having really bad nightmares. I've never told anybody about it and I really want to talk, but I don't know if that's an acceptable topic for these forums.
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I commend you for wanting to protect your sister by talking to her but since it is really troubling you, I recommend that you talk to a therapist, a friend, and/or post here first. Also, I have found that sometimes private messaging someone on this forum can be more helpful than a post to all. Sometimes when we are abused, it is embarrassing because we feel responsible for the abuse (like it was our fault we let it happen). This can make it harder to talk about things that we really need to discuss. It can make us feel ashamed which can really effect us more than we realize. I think you will have nightmares and anxiety about it for a while when you first talk and post about this. And that you will be able to have the most constructive conversation/advice for your sister after you first spend some time processing this. I am sorry you are going through this but I think there is a good chance that the nightmares will get better with time.