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Originally Posted by seesaw
Arty (((hugs)))
I know I'm still single so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice, but I can tell you that when I used online dating sites, it was definitely a pick up zone. I used to say online dating was like window shopping...people like to look but they can't afford to buy.
So it's really not you, dear, it's the nature of the vehicle you are using to shop with. 
The only thing that online dating ever got me was laid. (Which I was very grateful for.) My fiancee that I met online, we met through social media and my blog rather than through a dating site, and we were actually friends for 2 years before we met in person and then things became romantic. (Clarification, we broke it off eventually for a variety of reasons.)
I know it is possible to meet people who are interested in serious relationships online, I do think that maybe it takes a longer though. I also do think that, maybe, and forgive me because this is not meant unkindly but only as a way to give you perspective, the fact that you only work part-time and live with your family still may raise some flags for a good portion of guys. Most guys I know are looking for independent women who control their own lives. That's not saying there's anything wrong with your living or work situation, just saying that some people will judge it a certain way.
Keep kissing those frogs, and remember to also focus on your own self-improvement so that you don't get bored in the meantime. (You've come so far already!)
Good luck,
seesaw |
Let's not be so politically correct... is there an excellent reason for this? Otherwise, why are you an intelligent, able-bodied adult only working part time and living with your mother and alcohol abusing brother? This does not look good to a potential partner.
You are not screwed. You can get what you want. You need to focus on what it is that you want and then you need to be the person who can achieve it.
You have made great strides already in a lot of areas. Now it is just a moving forward process...part two.
My h married me because I was to be his life partner, have his children, cook and clean for him, give him sex, I gave him joy, made him laugh. He says what he instantly loved about me was I got his humor. I was his assistant, literally, taking care of everything in our lives and even doing his books for him in his business, while he just focused on working his very stressful job.
That's why I ask what are you going to do for them? I did everything because he had a high earning career. I saw his lack of organization when we first started dating. He had stacks of bills strewn all over the table. I simply started organizing his life, taking care of him, before I knew it, we were getting hitched!
If you find a guy who also works part time and lives at home. How can the both of you work together? If you find a guy who can support you, what are you going to do all day?
Plus, I was a full time college student, then I was a full time retail employee/manager for my parents' store in a mall. Why on Earth would I have not been working full time? My h was actually impressed when we met, I gave him my business card. I looked very professional, and dressed it, too. I looked like I had it going on...did I really? Hell No! Still don't! But it is all an illusion, darling...