I am floored about asking if you are pretty enough. Of course you are! And it's apples and oranges comparing your experience to your brother's experience.

I'm thinking long and hard about how long I knew people before jumping into bed. Aside from my ex husband, I knew each of them for some time and each of them ended up being long term. Not saying that there's some formula. Most men are interested in spicing it up in the bedroom regardless so that needn't be a right out of the starting line declaration.

But gaining a long term lover isn't this question that you are asking. There's has to be some type of relationship first.