I'm supposed to arrange for a nutritionist for my son on top of some extra speech therapy in addition to school and in addition to having two other sons. He gained 25lbs this year. Plus the weight gained the year before. And of course drs need to dot their own i's and cross their own t's because of the "epidemic."

One thing that concerns me about the added pressure on kids these days is developing a complex.

I asked about the therapist and knowing that your wife isn't on board because there was a time in my life during the restraining order years post domestic assault and battery when a psychologist refused counseling without the other parent's consent because as it was explained to me, therapy won't work without both parents on board and encouraging.

Does my son have a weight issue? Yes. Do my other two or myself? No. Does he need more veggies and fruits? Yes. Would I practically have to force him to do so in an unhealthy battle of wills? Yes. Does he stand a chance of a growth spurt? He's only 10.

Are we over pressured as parents? Yes.

Edit to add: for perspective, my other son, my 11yr old put on zero pounds in 1 year despite gaining height. Had an on the spot stool sample for something. It's the same food in my home despite being told that I must eliminate the junk. My personal bmi is 19. What junk?

I work with food. Have nutrition training. I have seen young girls have hunger pains and needing more food than their peers, extra meals with parent approval. These years are different for every person.