hi Daniel,

sometimes i think we, as humans, tend to obsess more about things we can't have than about things that we already do have.

before your wife discovered you were longing for another women, how did she view the relationship. have the two of you been in couples' or individual counseling?

when i was young, 18 or 19, i felt the same way about a young man. even after he married a mutual friend of ours years later, i still longed for him. it hurt, and it took awhile to get over it. it may be in your best interest, and your family's, to move forward and not look back to what you had with this woman. ultimately, it is your decision. it may help to seek a counselor or therapist with experience in discussing such issues.

best wishes to you,

splash