Let's not be so politically correct... is there an excellent reason for this? Otherwise, why are you an intelligent, able-bodied adult only working part time and living with your mother and alcohol abusing brother? This does not look good to a potential partner.

You are not screwed. You can get what you want. You need to focus on what it is that you want and then you need to be the person who can achieve it.

You have made great strides already in a lot of areas. Now it is just a moving forward process...part two.

My h married me because I was to be his life partner, have his children, cook and clean for him, give him sex, I gave him joy, made him laugh. He says what he instantly loved about me was I got his humor. I was his assistant, literally, taking care of everything in our lives and even doing his books for him in his business, while he just focused on working his very stressful job.

That's why I ask what are you going to do for them? I did everything because he had a high earning career. I saw his lack of organization when we first started dating. He had stacks of bills strewn all over the table. I simply started organizing his life, taking care of him, before I knew it, we were getting hitched!

If you find a guy who also works part time and lives at home. How can the both of you work together? If you find a guy who can support you, what are you going to do all day?

Plus, I was a full time college student, then I was a full time retail employee/manager for my parents' store in a mall. Why on Earth would I have not been working full time? My h was actually impressed when we met, I gave him my business card. I looked very professional, and dressed it, too. I looked like I had it going on...did I really? Hell No! Still don't! But it is all an illusion, darling...