Artchic I don't think Tisha or anyone else meant that you need to be doing all the work and he would just sit on his butt. I think she meant that it has to be give and take.

One of you (if not both) would have to work full time to pay the bills. If it is going to be him, what are you going to do all day? You don't want to work much, you don't want children (that's ok) but you apparently do not want to do house chores either? So what is that you plan on doing while he works all day and pays bills?

Helping each other is not being subservient, it's being partners. I don't think you understand how good relationship works at all.

Also if you don't want to do anything for "some guy" then why would he want to do anything for "some woman"?