Sorry Art, but if my man is slaving his assume off 40+ hours a week I am proud to have kept the home, paid the bills and taken care of the kids. I absolutely do not think this is demeaning, I would expect exactly the same for him were the roles reversed.
I think your mis-understanding, what's being asked.
Your expectations of this guy are high, list what your bringing to the table to each of his qualities.
So, if he works full-time, you work ....
He looks like a)b)c), you are....
He has is own house, you.....
Own car, you....
Good sense of humour , you....
And so and on and so forth.

Maybe you could see where the imbalance is.
Also I am guessing you have preference when it comes to how a guy looks and presents himself.
Everyone does its almost instinctual, outside our conscious thoughts, this isn't shallow it just is.
However it's possible for instant perceptions to be changed through meeting people.

We all want for you to find your 'one' Art. I wish you much happiness.