If I had told my h "get it your damned self", I think I'd have been out the door pronto. Just saying...

It does work sometimes, though. My cousin and her h are both professors. She doesn't cook for him, he probably cooks for her. He does most everything taking care of their two kids. She just published a book.

I just asked my h, if I said I wouldn''t cook for you, would you have married me and he said 'no way'. Because it is selfish.