I never said you have to do it alone. I'm not sure where you're getting that from in my entire post except possibly the last paragraph and I think you're misunderstanding. I also suggested ways of not doing it alone.

edit: sorry if that is harsh sounding in any way, artchic. I was pretty much frustrated with the fact that I wrote an entire post trying to help, and it seemed not to help at all. Thats my own issue. take care.