I think its a little short sighted to not get her professional help just because you don't want her on meds.

You are aware that you have the right to refuse to put her on meds, correct?

There is a LOT of help that can be given to your daughter without putting her on drugs.

I don't understand why your daughter has to suffer because you as the mother have an inability to tell a doctor "no, I do not want my daughter on medication"

A child psychologist could do your daughter a world of good, with the "benefit" that they legally cannot prescribe your daughter drugs. If the psychologist insists that she take drugs, you find a new one. Really, its as simple as that.

I really am a bit dumbfounded that you'd believe that if a doc says your daughter needs drugs that you'd be forced to put her on drugs. We live in a free society. Doctors cannot legally force drugs on a patient unless ordered to do so by the courts. And yeah, we're a long way from that.

Please don't let your own personal fears prevent your daughter from getting help.