Thank you for listening to her. Thank you for not being my own mother. When at 4 I cried to my mother about bullying her reaction was to ask me what I had done wrong. I never trusted my mother after that right through until she passed at my age 42.

You have started things right by talking to your child. By doing so you are acknowledging the problem to her and validating her fears and feelings.

I've suggested telling as many people as you can.

In the meantime I recommend you set about trying to find ways to improve her sense of self worth. Extracurricular activities are always good. But even acknowledge small feats around the house. You could have her do her own laundry and praise her afterwards. She could help fix dinner and you could praise her for that. She could help dad too. Encourage her to do things on her own. This will instill some confidence and independence. Try to avoid smothering her and coddling her.

And, open discussion regarding what's behind these situations. Try not to insinuate she is responsible but get her to describe what led up to the incidents. Ask her too if this happens to her other peers? And, what do they do about it? Ask her who she likes of the children at school and get her to talk about why. You may get some insight into the matter; what happened, possibly why, and her self image. Learning these things will make it easier to form a plan to navigate through all this.