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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
You don't know he will be happy ever after though. It's important that you work on yourself and the things that made you vulnerable to getting caught in his trap to begin with. You are probably an nice person and are vulnerable to this kind of individual who depends on that for "their" own narcissistic feed. He did the drinking and driving and cheating because he is "selfish" and only thinks about what "he" needs. He will probably do the same to his next partner too, feel sorry for her.
You deserve to work on your depression and feeling so low you have bad thoughts. This is a common challenge for those who were swept off their feet by a narcissist who at one time made them feel they were so important and appreciated only to drop them for selfish reasons that have nothing to do with their true value as a person.
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Thank you so much. It made me cry to read that because I am a good and kind person, but I feel like this depression is a punishment for something I must have done, although I don't know what. I feel that God or some higher being doesn't think I deserve to be happy in love. I get so lonely and I'm so scared of ending up alone. I'm generally good with my own company, but there's a limit and I get so down when I see all my friends getting married and starting their lives with someone and I realise there must be something really wrong with me. I have friends who suffer with depression and their partners/husband/wife doesn't walk out on them, so what makes me so unloveable?? People have said I'm attractive and I've never had a problem attracting people, it's just getting them to stick around. People tell me it's confidence, but I am confident when I first meet people, it's when I'm with them a while that I guess they start to see I'm not confident deep down, but how can people expect me to be confident when all I get is rejection??