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Originally Posted by Erebos
I totally second crisp apple. In fact I am even starting to feel sorry for your husband. I'm not surprised he is the way he is. Living in that environment must be utterly miserable. He is burying his misery in computer games and pot. And you...have you read your posts back to yourself. Do you realise how you sound?
You are sounding unwell, mentally I mean . Why do you want him to fail so bad. Why are you envious of him, 'getting away with stuff' at his work. What difference does it make to you, none. Except No one is validating your view of him.
Takes two to make this mess and honestly without you he probably wouldn't be as bad as he is now.
Sorry I have tried to offer a rational balanced perspective.
Now I am just calling it like I see it.
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He doesn't know I know or do anything. I keep it all to myself, so why would he be miserable about me checking up on him? He doesn't know I know about all his lies. As far as he's concerned he thinks he's been giving me great excuses which I believe. He doesn't know I check his stuff to catch him in all these lies....or should I say "alternate facts"! If he'd stop lying to me about being at work, or going to work, or paying a bill then I wouldn't have to check and see if it's true. I almost feel like I need to have his manager sign a note that he brings home to let me know he actually was at work that day!
And no, he isn't miserable. Keeps telling me how much he loves me and how I'm the best thing to happen to him and how I've calmed him down so much.