Quote:
Originally Posted by rdgrad15
I've seen her do it for both scenarios. I can understand the first one you mentioned since that is indirectly trying to get the person to offer a ride or some other favor. But when she offers out of the blue and gets annoyed later, that is what I don't understand. But even for the first scenario, she doesn't have to offer when someone is hinting that they need a favor such as a ride.
|
To me it sounds like she's using favors to earn the approval of other people.
When the people don't show their appreciation then she gets upset?
Kind of like "I'm giving people what they want and they STILL don't like me!"
Or is it that she's "offering" these favors like a ride in order to be included in the activity that's going on, whatever it is. If so, this isn't the right way to become part of the group. If anything, she will become the "go to" person to be used and not necessarily included with any plans. In a lot of groups of friends there is that one person who is always putting themselves out there an yes they get to tag along with the others, but they're never really an integral part of the group. Their "job" is to just be there for rides or money or whatever else is needed. Is it possible that this is happening?