Thats me, or was. Thats how my mother was, everything was a catastrophe. I finally figured out, like in 2001, no lie, when i was 49, that she just wanted to win every argument, even if it meant switching sides halfway thru! I just blindly absorbed her method of discourse. I had to stop seeing her (which therapists had been begging me to do for literally decades) before i could start to absorb my ts calm demeanor. Absorb sounds funny but i think thats what i did!