=( thanks. the fight continued this morning and i think burnt out at noon. we were both mad and crying. she can't understand why i'm upset (even though we go through a lot of this every year). I'm upset because things constantly change and I can't plan on anything. That sounds so simple. But i have a really limited list of foods i can have (you're right, nothing processed); no wheat, yeast, glutin, dairy, beef, soy, starches, night shade veggies.... the list goes on... And she's been talking pumpkin pies, rolls, sauses, gravys, mashed potatoes.... all out for me. And it is really hard for me to be around those foods - makes me feel like a deprived animal who someone's teasing with food. I'd rather just be alone than be around a bunch of food i want so bad. but she doesn't want me to be alone - those are *her* needs, not mine. I told her that and she broke down crying. Our boundaries are so emmeshed. It's one of those "unsolvable puzzles" where there is no right answer. but it does help to pour it all out in here.
thanks for "listening",
kiya