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Originally Posted by Erebos
He sounds like he has a lot of responsibilities and in some ways that's a good thing. Gives you time to work on yourself.
He has chosen to be with you despite how busy he is, I would take this as a positive. Unlike many I don't think feeding into your needs is always healthy.
More importantly, how does he behave when he is around you? Is he loving, engaged and present? If so I strongly advise seeing someone to help you address your insecurities.
Are you working, what do you do during the day to keep busy?
Maybe you could ask if he could send a text during lunch, or maybe a quick call.
Not directed at you OP I just want to add,...
....This is the one thing I hate about the mobile phone generation. Everyone requires immediate responses to their needs and anxieties.
Once upon a time you just had to wait til they got home.
We forget the world won't end of we have to wait a couple of hours.
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Thank you for your feedback I really appreciate it. We he is around me he is great and very affectionate. Not to mention he makes time for me despite the fact that he really has hardly any time. We see eachother 3 times per week. Also, he has said good morning every morning for 2 months since we started dating and we talk on the phone at night before bed for like an hour. I mentioned to him that I want him to reach out more during the day and sometimes he does but sometimes he doesn't. In many people's opinion we prob talk enough through the day but I feel like my insecurities make me more needy. I don't want to be this way. I am a very busy person myself as I work full time (some weeks I work two jobs) and also go to the gym after work. This worrying and anxiety is draining my energy from the things that I really need to be focusing on. Any thoughts on how take my focus off of these worries? Also, I am going to counseling and it's helping a little bit. Thank you so much for listening 💜