I feel cared for by both my T and marriage counselor, though it took some time for me to feel that way with them--it certainly wasn't immediate. They've both actually told me they care, too (that also wasn't right away), and I can tell they mean it. Once I was upset with MC and said he only cared about me because I paid him to. And he said that I could pay him to do his job, but I couldn't pay him to care--like that's his choice.

It's not just about what they say but about what they do, too. In my case, giving me support outside of session at times when I've needed it, whether by e-mail, text, or phone call. (I know not all T's do that, and if a T doesn't, that doesn't mean they don't care.) Really listening to me and trying to understand. And just showing the caring in their eyes, voice, and body language.

It does feel different from other current relationships in my life, including my relationship with my H and daughter. Probably because the T devotes a particular chunk of time a week just to focusing on me (or me and H, in the case of MC). I don't, in theory, have to worry about their needs. In that way, it feels more like a parent-child relationship (which is likely why I have maternal and paternal transference for T and MC, respectively). And just the feeling that they accept me, no matter what I tell them--my parents were/are less accepting of me, though I know they love me. So to get that sort of unconditional acceptance from T and MC is very healing to me and makes me feel safe, though I still have abandonment fears. And need reassurance from them at times.

Hope that's the sort of answer you wanted!