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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
 Once you try to talk to him, I really DO HOPE you will try to talk about your debts, income, and bills. If your gut says he is lying about his debts--go here (this is the one thing you might want to spy about):
https://www.annualcreditreport.com/index.action
Hopefully, you will be able to answer the security questions in regards to him. If you pull a credit report on him--you will know about all of his significant debts. Of course, it would be better to pull your credit reports together and be up front about it. You'll feel better about yourself whenever you can make yourself be more direct. I do think Prefab is right about therapy. Most therapists aren't scary at all and once you go a while, you'll eventually strike up the nerve to discuss what's really troubling you. But since you are having trouble confronting him..... |
I've already spied about the debts. He's about $15,000 in credit card debt. I was upset a few years ago when it was only $500! Tack on about another $3000 in Pay Pal credit where he went when his credit card limits were reached. Owes about $10,000 on student loans, another $10,000 on a motorcycle loan. He never gets anywhere with these because he makes $100/month payments and then gets $75 interest tacked on.
And he won't EVER save. He never has and won't now. Sure he'll tell me after he sees how much our bills are that he'll bring his lunch to work everyday(that is, when he goes) and he won't buy video games and computer parts and motorcycle parts. That will last for a week and then the next week he's buying lunch every day because he's tired of making his own, going out with coworkers and spending $50 at a bar, buying a new, faster computer part for $200, a new, faster motorcycle part for $500. It doesn't matter how much I talk to him about it, he won't do it after a few days and go back to his usual ways.