I read your rant and it struck a chord with me. I used to feel because I was very shy as a kid and teen that everyone was always trying to give me advise on how to be otherwise. My loud and gregarious friends used to think they had it sorted and shyness was a disease. Id get your a closed book, you never get excited, you need a boyfriend(I'm a gay girl), you need this, you need that. One suggesting I was autistic(I'm not far from it) My mum said id never be anything because I wasn't confident enough. Any my biological father used to say I didn't have enough energy about me.....