IDEALISM, the great deception. Expectation is the twin brother of despair.
Expectation is the root of all heartache.
William Shakespeare
Minimize your expectations: (( reduce their number and their size.))
Don't believe everything you think.
when my ex did this I noted her behavior and the time and her schedule. If i or she had some place to be, I would ask myself; does she expect me to risk my job over this? Is she avoiding going to something because of anxiety.? What is the background noise going on (in her own head).
Try working more romance into your lives, sounds to me like you got off track. Women, well, some, like the allure of the romantic presence and fragrance in their life.
Her behavior is becoming more typically aggressive and typically male, so introduce your feminine side and bring it on, show some romantic innovation and ingenuity.
Sandworm