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Originally Posted by Ember_42
It is entirely possible to be bisexual (sexually attracted to men and women) and also homo-romantic (romantically only attracted to one's own gender). People are much more complex than a lot of traditional, main stream ideas we've been taught.
Also, your identity is whatever you say it is, regardless of who you've slept with. I know people who identify as straight but have had homosexual sex too that they consider 'exceptions'. There is also the term hetero-flexible which basically means the same thing. I don't see why there couldn't be homo-flexible too. Or any other identity you choose for yourself.
I know there's a stigma and a lot of discrimination towards bisexual individuals which is something I just don't understand. A whole lot more people are likely bi than are comfortable admitting it because of the stigma. I'm sorry that you've had to deal with that and been hurt by it.
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I'm a hetero-romantic bisexual, in that while I'm sexually attracted to both men and women, I prefer relationships and romantic connections with the opposite gender.
What really helped me was the concept that sexuality can be measured on a scale, with one side being completely hetero with no interested whatsoever with the same sex, to the complete opposite on the other end, completely homosexual with no interest whatsoever with the opposite sex. Then you have all the variants of attraction and whatnot in between. Also, keep in mind that gender is non-binary as well, meaning that one can identify with any number of gender variants. It can be very confusing and overwhelming with all these ways and scales to identify oneself as and whatnot, but I think that working with a T on this will help.