Thread: Guilt
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Old Jan 26, 2017, 03:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Mr. Stranger View Post
Actually, they don't need my support. I'm just not sure if I'm making the right decision. Sometimes I put myself in their shoes and think, if I brought a child on this Earth and raised him/her, then maybe I would expect him or her to be at least close to see him/her, and to help me when I get older. I'm not sure how parents exactly feel about their children, but I think they think differently than us, the children. They think of us all the time, while we think of ... us and our future. It's a one way. The feelings aren't mutual naturally. It's they way it is. I call them every other day, and have a Skype with them once a week. But still sometimes I feel guilty. I saw them briefly just twice in the last 7 years. I think I have a better chance where I am now once I break my social isolation, so, I'm afraid of making a decision to go back home for the wrong reasons: to be close to my parents, and because I'm not currently happy where I am. Thanks for your response
Every other day calls and once a week Skype sounds like fairly close contact to me (given the geography involved).

I think how parents think about their grown children varies from person to person, and maybe culture also plays into that. My own son is a young adult and we want to see him on his own feet most of all, I guess I do hope he will keep part of our lives but I don't expect it.