T1 has tightened things up, and then loosened them, but always has talked to me about it, never been arbitrary. At one point I was often texting back and forth with him most of the day. I didn't like it when he said that we needed to stop doing texting sessions, but I did understand what he was doing and why. And I even agreed with him that it was problematic. I can email anytime I like, when he is on vacation he tells me if/ when he will be able to respond. The rest of the time, I know he checks email before ending the day's work, so if I email or text during normal hours, he'll get back to me same day. If after hours, then maybe he will respond to email, likely he will respond to text. I hav asked him exactly what is ok and exactly what I can expect because of my attachment issues. He is patient and always explains it again. Right now, I am pretty secure that he will answer as promised. I am coming up on seeing him for 10 years. Oh, and he says he will not terminate unless I stalk him or he becomes incapacitated. Of course I know he will retire some day. He is in his late 50s, and says he has no plans to retire soon.

But in terms of boundaries, he has never pulled the "I have decided" thing. Which is a very good thing for me.