Been married for 18 years and 9 months, the way we're going I don't think we'll make it to 19 years. Started out when we were teenagers, popped out 3 kids in 4 years and never kookier back. We did so many things wrong, treated eachother like enemies, but most detrimental to our relationship was cutting each other out. We became roommates.. I don't want a roommate, I want a best friend, I want a partner for life; the older I get the more I've learned to control my emotions and accept our relationship may have served its purpose of bringing 3 wonderful children into this world. Are we hanging on just because? If we consciously uncouple can I really just be her friend? Watching her move on in life being happier with another man? I hope I can be happy for her.. but I'm not holding my breath.