I started dating a guy 4-20-2016 and everything was great until major depression hit me in September. Between the depression and the Lexapro I had to attraction to him at all or anyone for that matter. I loved him dearly and I tried my hardest to make things work. He traveled for work which really didn't bother me and actually was a good thing for us. He decided after traveling for awhile to quit his job because it wasn't really accessible for him (he's in a wheel chair). By happenstance his brother before he left had said he couldn't stay with him anymore and he was staying with me. We were planning a wedding and everything. I have this issue where I can't have people live with me because I always see it as my space and the stress of him being there and the depression and trying to take care of my 3 children was too much. By mid November I had broken the engagement and broke up with him. I tried my hardest to explain what I was feeling and what I was going through and that it wasn't permanent. I needed time to fix myself before I could really see if how I was feeling was the mood or the truth. He claimed to understand. I'd check up on him, and he wouldn't answer my calls. His messages through Facebook were very short. I hadn't even told people we'd broken up but he'd jumped at the change to tell people and say that our relationship crashed and burned. It hurt because this was someone who proposed to me as I was hysterically crying over being a hoarder and being a complete mess. Then to see him describe the end of our relationship as a crash and burn hurt even more. I keep trying to tell myself that someone who didn't even bother to see if I was okay or what was going on with me was not worth my time but I really loved him. I still do. Was I wrong for the way that I handled things? Our relationship before the depression wasn't perfect but we worked through it. I feel betrayed because he was always telling me that his family just came out and said things and when I did. I feel like he stopped hearing me beyond lets break up.
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