in my location two consenting adults entering a church, messing around sexually then regretting it and having second thoughts about it is not abuse. neither is one partner doing things so that the other will reciprocate.... in short thats what sex education classes, couples therapy and well known books like the joy of sex 1 and two recommend couples doing (show by example do what you would like your partner to do to you)

sex acts become abuse when one partner refuses/ states no and the other forces their self and sex acts upon another.

not saying it didnt ......feel..... wrong.... just saying by law this is not considered to be abuse here in america when two consenting people enter a church, mess around then one regrets doing so after the fact it is not abuse.

here in my location when someone refuses then the other person says dont you love me any more which results in the one who refused giving in because they dont want to lose their partner is not called abuse. its called giving in, being submissive, and changing ones mind.

here in my location sexual abuse is when one person forcibly touches or forcibly has sex with someone totally against their will.

sexual abuse isnt about one person consenting or giving in just so the other person doing the abusing wont leave them and the relationship.

sex abuse in my location involves actual threats of harm to that person or that persons children other family members. someone in a relationship asking dont you love me anymore is not a threat of harm to anyone, its a basic relationship question that anyone in relationships deals with on a normal basis.

my suggestion would be to contact your local police department or treatment provider. they will be able to explain what the sexual abuse laws are in your location and what sex acts constitute sex abuse...