You may want to tar & feather me for what I'm going to say here.

Existentialism says that it's our burden to CREATE the meaning of our own lives. No ducking the responsibility. No complaining about the consequences of what we build, because noone twisted our arms. If we live only for another, then we've hitched our wagon to a falling star. Perhaps we would have done better to champion the cause of certain deprived groups of people or animals, because they are never in short supply. Then we would never lose our reasons for living!

What does it mean to live only for one other person? It means that we have decided to take our tinkertoys and go home, to resign from life when we don't get exactly what we want. It means we've decided to to live vicariously, THROUGH another person, which isn't really living at all. People who try to live for others are not too happy about whatever freedom those others have. They're limiting and restricting their own lives, making some imaginary sacrifice to give the "other" some imaginary benefit. Actually, they are DEPRIVING both themselves and the other person. Neither of them gets what they deserve --- the freedom to live for their own reasons --- instead of for someone else. Furthermore, living for another is an awful guilt trip to inflict on that person.

With all due respect to those of you who are suffering out there, and I know you are, please create your own reason to live. Your loved ones will be more at ease with you, because you will no longer cling to them out of NEED. Need is not love. Loved ones were not meant to fill that void.

So what will it be, hanging me in effigy or 3D burning me at the stake?

Before you decide, let me say one more thing. I've felt your pain and been in the same spot you're in. You're the story of my life, except that I learned to take responsibility for my own reason for living after my important others were no longer available. This is, in my humble opinion, a way to take away your pain and enrich your lives. And a few good meds wouldn't hurt, either.

Love to all,
Adieu