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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I told MC a while back that I was worried about it because of stuff I'd read on here. He told me that he really wished I didn't read these forums so much because they put worries like that in my head (and I already have plenty of worries!).
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That has a sinister and controlling ring to it. The isolation and exclusivity of the therapy relationship is dangerous in my opinion. The client should be encouraged to learn what is going on outside their own therapy. For me reading accounts from clients was quite eye opening and necessary.
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
At the end of the second session, he told me his door was always open to me, meaning like for future individual sessions. When I requested one a few months later, because I was struggling with transference stuff again, he told me no.
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I also had a door-is-always-open betrayal. She offered this up to lessen the blow of termination, then withdrew the offer a bit later.
During therapy she withdrew emotionally somewhat, which was a sort of undeclared subtle boundary change, after I had divulged my feelings for her. Was like bait and switch. She encouraged me to do this, then behaved as it were a problem.
Lesson learned: boundary changes are almost always for the benefit of the therapist, but are sold as a benefit to the client.