My T has changed boundaries a few times. First time was in the beginning of our relationship. She told ne she wanted me to call her any time I thought of SI'ing. Well, I did that next week, so I called her. She didn't help at all. Next time I saw her, she was frustrated and wanted to take away phone calls completely. I cried. It took that session and another one right afterwards to convince her to let me keep phone calls, but we changed it. Now I only call her when I've tried all my other coping skills first as a last resort. And she has improved on how to support me on the phone.

Another boundary change was actually an improvement. When I first met her, she told me no emailing or calling on the weekends. We for some reason talked about it a few months ago, and she said I can now email or call on the weekend just don't expect a reply on the weekend. There is a chance she might reply, but just assume she won't. (I still won't email on weekends though. Out of respect).