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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
I don't think it is the amount of alcohol consumed that makes an alcoholic - it is the need. Shows like that are misleading because they want to be sensational, so they show the amount drunk, but truth is you can be an alcoholic on a drink a day.
My first husband was an alcoholic who always pointed out he never drank that much (less than five beers on an average day, more on the weekends, then about once or twice a month a really spectacular bender).
I miss him a lot, actually, but the drinking and the denial plus the behaviors, including a DUI, that would crop up at times could not be lived with after some time. In retrospect, I am very glad we never went through with our plan to adopt a child. It would have been enormously unfair to him/her.
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I agree. That's really what made me start to realize that I had a problem, like if I was panicked if we only had one beer left in the house. And when I'd be hiding it from H at times, like if I had a beer during the day. The hugest red flag for me was a week or two ago, when I was really nervous about my second appointment with my new p-doc, which was at 10 in the morning. And I had a bit of beer before that (I know, that sounds really bad...).
When I was in my mid-20s, I would be out with friends and more drinking to get drunk/be social/have fun. Now, it's more trying to handle/manage anxiety and stress (and sometimes depression, which I know drinking just makes worse...). I think the fact that I'm using it as a coping mechanism makes it more of a problem... Like when, also in my mid-20s, I went from social smoking only when out with friends who smoked to sometimes smoking at home alone when I was stressed (haven't had a cigarette in like 8 years, incidentally).