How do we love another person? We show them love by our caring actions and words. I think that we can then apply this same notion to the concept of self love. How do we then love ourselves? By taking care of ourselves and thinking good things and saying good things about ourselves. It can be a long process if we're in a very negative space and don't believe that there's anything positive about ourselves. I know I struggle with the concept of self love, but I am getting better over time. And what I mean by that is that I have times when I do care about myself, I do think positive thoughts about myself. These times become greater and greater while the negative thoughts/actions toward myself decrease. Hugs.