Not to be a downer...you did mentioned him being "happily married"...maybe his marriage is not so happy any more...maybe his wife has seen the correspondence as innocent as it may seem...probably wouldn't make her happy...

I understand the abandonment...it is hard to let someone in...and when you do it is a great loss...Now the wall has probably grown higher to let someone in...

It does sound all so confusing...

Probably not a good idea though to write again...don't you think?