I struggle with this.

My T also tells me she wants me to email and I'm not contacting her too much. One thing that helped me not feel as guilty- I asked her to give me examples of what she considered "too much." She obliged and I don't come near to her examples.

She reassured me that even if I did something that bothered her, she would bring it up and we would talk about it. Also, she said if she did something that bothered me, she wants me to tell her about it so we can talk about it.

Hoping this helps.