Thanks for all the replies!

The difference made here between bipolar stability and life stability (Nammu) is really important to me. I can see that I'm not depressed right now. Or at least not depressed enough for it to translate into a diagnosis. But my mood does get dark easily. That would make me stable from a bipolar perspective, but not from a life perspective.

I'm glad to hear that being bipolar doesn't automatically mean that it's impossible to have 'life stability' outside of your episodes. Or would you guys say that being bipolar makes your moods (when you're stable) over the top compared to 'normal' people?

I know I have some personal issues to work through that are seriously affecting my mood and I am trying to work through them. But at the same time I'm trying to set my expectations right.