Hello.

I feel like I am about to have a heart attack. My husband and I have been seperated since August because of an affair he had this summer. He came to me in August for a reconciliation 2 days before I was moving into my apartment. We spent 2 months spending time together and trying to work on our marriage (half heartedly) and for the past 3 to 4 weeks he has been telling me he needs his space. We have spent time together, but whenever I contact him he flips out on me and screams, 'give me my space!'.

I called off our divorce in October, which I filed for because I thought we were going to honestly work on our marriage and a week later he told me he wasn't sure if staying together was the best idea.

Now he says he is not ready to make a decision one way or the other (marriage or divorce) and that he just needs some time alone.

We went to dinner last Sunday and when he left he said he would talk to me "in a few days". Well, I have not heard from him at all. I am afraid to contact him because I am afraid he will scream at me, 'give me my space!'.

I am honestly very worried about him. My husband is very bi-polar and I believe he is manic. He consumes an astronomical amount of caffiene which I know interferes with his medication and he does not sleep on a regular schedule.

My problem is that I am worried about him, but I am also sick and tired of waiting around for him to get his act together. I realize that he is sick and that he does love me, but I am really hurting. I feel as if he is being unfair by asking me to give him space and while I'm sitting around waiting for him he is out with his friends and sleeping all day on the couch at our house.

I would appreciate any advice anyone has to give. I love my husband very much and I have told him that I will be here waiting for him with open arms. I guess I've given him permission to keep me at a distance, but I am afraid if I give him an ultimatum he will just divorce me and I honestly want to stay married to him.

Thank you.