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Originally Posted by brillskep
Is it possible to grow and still care about your therapist, even if in a different way?
It sounds like you are struggling between either growing or caring / being close to your therapist. I don't see these as mutually exclusive, personally. Relationships always change too - perhaps this is a moment of big changes in your life and maybe that will include your therapeutic relationship.
I hope you'll find some relief from this struggle.
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Thanks, brillskep. I suppose you're right that growing doesn't mean I can't be just as close to my T as I have always been. But I think she will encourage me to see her less often, which I don't want to do, except that it makes sense in light of paying her more.
I worry that as I am getting older I will want her support more, not less! I am trying to shift some of my medical concerns to my doctor instead of my T, but T is who I confide in about medical problems, especially since she's interested in the mind/body connection.
I put myself in this dilemma: offering to pay more, still needing T a lot, but thinking I should see her less even if I don't want to. I guess I will talk to her about it at my next session.
At the moment, I feel like holding her hand, which I haven't asked for in months. Just to make sure she will still let me.