Yes, I had a similar therapist for 2 years. We chatted more as friends. She was supportive, and I enjoyed talking with her, so it helped in that sense, but there were no 'results' so to speak. It started to become irritating. I think if you find yourself talking about your problems to your hairdresser, mechanic, co-workers, etc, or feel like you are burdening your friends, it can be useful to have someone like that. But if you want to get at the root of your problems, I don't think so.

But I started dreading going to sessions. I was a super busy person, and it seemed like a waste of time and money. So after 2 years, I just quit.

I also encourage you to talk with him about this. Although not speaking specificially of Kashi here, I do think some therapists are just not cut out for more deep work, regardless of what the client does.

Another idea I wanted to share with you-I am questioning myself about the utility of attachment related depth work. I once read that it's the regression in psychoanalytic therapy, where you feel like a child, that allows for healing opportunities. You won't get that from 'chatting' sessions, no matter how you direct the therapy if you are with someone who doesn't work like that or who thinks you don't have the ego resources to undergo that.

However, I think that regression can also lead to a lot of unnecessary months or years of painful therapy because feeling of abandonment and rejection can go on for a long time, depending on how rigid vs flexible; exploratory vs supportive a therapist works. Outside of the transference, it can lead to much harm and add an attachment injury on top of attachment injury. It has a lot of potential to backfire.

Maybe you have a good thing with Kashi. Talk with him and see what happens.