A work supervisor once asked me, do you have ten years of experience, or do you have the same year of experience ten times? I wanted to punch him!

So THESE past ten years in therapy, i have tried to remember to take stock and set goals every year or so, even if they are just woo-woo t type goals, like "not say no every time t makes a suggestion." Still working on that one...

But overall, i feel i have made progress. Like now, i CAN say no when i really want to, so my yeses and nos are more meaningful. Thats probably something that i should have accomplished at age 5, not 65, but hey better late than never.